Saturday, 9 April 2016

H is for Handy Hints for Husbands

A to Z Blogging Challenge

WHERE would women be without their husbands? Probably living it up with a toy boy in the Bahamas. You can but dream. 

In actual fact, there's not much about the dearly beloved I would change but I wish I'd had this handy little booklet called Don'ts For Husbands (written by Blance Ebbutt in 1913) before we started living together.

It included very handy hints like this one: "Don't stoop, even if your work is desk-work. Your wife wants to see you straight and broad-chested." Wise words if ever I heard them. 

As are these: "Don’t sharpen pencils all over the house. It does not improve either the carpets or the servants’ tempers to find pencil sharpenings all over the floors." 

The times I've told the dearly beloved: "For goodness sake, consider the servants!"  Good servants are so hard to find these days. I really don't want to be faffed with finding a new parlour maid and training her up to my exacting standards, not at my time of life.

Then there was:  "Don’t sneer at your wife’s cookery or bridge-playing or singing." Unless you want the cookery all over your head, sneering is definitely out.

Here are a few more handy hints for the dearly beloved to consider:
  • Don't increase the necessary work of the house by leaving all your things lying about in different places. If you are not tidy by nature, at least be thoughtful for others.
  • Don't take it out on your poor wife every time you have a headache or a cold. It isn't her fault, and she has enough to do in nursing you, without having to put with ill-humour into the bargain.
  • Don’t try to regulate every detail of your wife’s life. Even a wife is an individual, and must be allowed some scope. 
  • Don’t try to “drive” your wife. You will find it much easier to “lead” her.
  • Don’t increase the work of the house by leaving all your things lying about in different places. If you are not tidy by nature, at least be thoughtful for others.
If you husbands are feeling a little put upon, don't worry, there is a companion book for women called Don'ts For Wives. I will write about this later under the letter W.

Hop over to my other blog in the A to Z Challenge, That's Purrfect.

16 comments:

Kathleen Valentine said...

Well, since I do not have a husband these sound like perfectly reasonable guidelines. Also for guests and live-ins! Thanks.

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Darla M Sands said...

This is cool! My mother-in-law used to say that you could always tell when her youngest had been in the room. So true. He's definitely not neat. At least he's not picky about my housekeeping either. :)
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Helen Hollick said...

thanks for visiting my blog - could you email me, would be nice to meet for coffee maybe?
Really interesting post, I enjoyed browsing - thanks for sharing with us & enjoy the A-Zeding!

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The Flynnigans said...

Thanks for the good laugh, particularly about the servants.
I enjoyed reading this post and can't wait to see what you come up for women. :)
Happy A to Z'ing!!

Caz Greenham said...

Great! Loved it
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The Widow Badass said...

LOL! Yes, consider the servants please!!!
Great post.

Cherdo said...

I love your blog and I'm thinking I gotta follow!

Well done - enjoy the A-to-Z!

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betty said...

LOL with the advice for husbands; I'll have to remember to come back and check W for the advice for wives :) And much has changed since 1913 I think :)

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Around My Kitchen Table said...

Thanks for the comment. I really liked your blog but couldn't leave a comment as it was trying to make me sign up to Diqus. Good luck in the rest of the A to Z!

Around My Kitchen Table said...

I don't know where I'd be without the upstairs, downstairs and in my lady's chamber maids!

Around My Kitchen Table said...

Perfectly reasonable. There's no excuse for stooping!

Around My Kitchen Table said...

I must admit I'm not the tidiest person in the world!

Around My Kitchen Table said...

Wonderful. I'll be in touch.

Around My Kitchen Table said...

You too! Your blog is hilarious.

Around My Kitchen Table said...

Yes, 1913 advice for wives is quite an eye-opener!

Around My Kitchen Table said...

Thank you! I've just left a comment on your great blog.